
Family research can be a lot of fun, but one hazard is discovering things you would have preferred not to know about – and certainly things that your ancestors would not have wanted you to know about. When writing up our Beatty family story some years ago I discovered something that felt too shocking and embarassing to publish about – especially since my great grandfather James Beatty had already suffered a reputational knock by having his drapery business in Ballina go bankrupt.
I found this church baptism record (on the RootsIreland database) for a John Beaty born in Ballina 22 April 1869:
Name: John Beaty Date of Birth: 22-Apr-1869 Date of Baptism: 02-May-1869 Address: Knox St/Ardnaree Parish/District: Kilmoremoy/Ballina County: Co. Mayo Gender: Male Denomination: Roman Catholic Father: Unknown Beaty Mother: Eleanor Loftus Sponsor 1/Informant 1: John Loftus Sponsor 2/Informant 2: Cath McLaughlin Notes: The father is a draper (a protestant) living in Knox St. Ballina
You can imagine the father of this unmarried girl, and also the outraged parish priest, taking a vindictive pleasure in adding the incriminating note which, more than 150 years later, would shock a great grand-daughter researching her family story!
There were very few Beattys in Ballina at the time and James and his elder brother Archibald had come from Fermanagh and were only in Ballina for a few years from about 1860 after their mother died and their father remarried, until 1878 when James emigrated and 1874 when Archibald moved on. There was only one Beatty who had a drapery business in Knox Street in 1869.
Baby John was born about four years before James Beatty married into the minor gentry and about eight years before he and his family emigrated to Melbourne, Victoria where they lived in anglican respectability and were friends of the bishop. I wonder how my distant cousin John fared? I can find nothing else about him in the records.
I guess we have all made mistakes and have things we'd prefer that nobody knew about.
What do family historians (and family members!) think? Should we tell the family story as we find it or should we cast a rosy glow over the past by ignoring the failures and mistakes of our ancestors that we uncover? I know at least one member of my own family who prefers to believe all the debunked family myths to the carefully researched family story that I've uncovered 🙂











